Why New Year’s resolutions fail and 3 things you can do to increase your odds of success.
Many individuals look at the New Year as a time to create changes that they want in their life. In this brief article I will discuss why most New Year’s resolutions or goals are usually a path leading to failure. I’ll also offer you a different approach learned thru my meditations that will increase your goal achievement success.
According to statistics, 40-45% of American adults make one or more resolutions each year. Among the top New Year’s resolutions are resolutions about weight loss, exercise, and stopping smoking. Also popular are resolutions dealing with better money management / debt reduction.
There are hundreds of seminars books on this subject that say pretty much the same info-blended into different flavors. People pay hundreds, even thousands of dollars for this information. Let’s look at what happens over time, this data shows how many of these resolutions are maintained as time goes on:
- past the first week: 75%
- past 2 weeks: 71%
- after one month: 64%
- after 6 months: 46%
Wow! More than half of the people who set New Year’s resolutions dropped off after 6 months and are pretty much where they started. What happened to the fervor of “this is the year that my life is going to be different?”
I do not set specific goals, I set intentions.
I set intentions and then let go of all expectations of the goal and focus my meditations on my Creator. For example I don’t create an affirmation like “I will make $10,000 a month.” Instead I set an intention that I will make $10,000 a month. This difference alone can make an astronomical difference in your success.
How I focus on my intention throughout the day is very different than how I was taught in all the seminars and books I’ve read including “The Secret” and other popular titles from world famous authors. Although my method may sound similar to what you have heard elsewhere. But remember, in anything, it is the nuances of yourself that makes the difference that leads to your success.
I never tell anybody exactly what step-by-step method they need to do to attain success. There is no such thing out there. To prove my point, how many self-help books have you read? Are you anywhere near where they said you would be by trying their methods? If you’re not, did you think that it was something you did or did not do? By no way am I saying that these methods are wrong or do not work because they have worked for some. But what about the vast majority of individuals for whom it hasn’t worked?
If I don’t tell you the exact steps then what can I do for you?
My system is more of method that your spirit and your “self” go thru rather than a step by step process.
Take note that this information may sound simple, but simple is how nature and spirit works. Some people think it needs to be difficult or expensive to work. Not the case at all. Individuals who have tried these methods whether it’s a better relationship, better health or improved finances have found amazing satisfaction. Aside from the physical profits, most reported a deeper sense of inner peace, a connectedness. The emptiness that had been for so long, had finally disappeared.
What was the difference?
Have you ever achieved a goal or gotten what you so badly wished for only to find out that once you had it, it was not really what you wanted? You had different expectations than what it was? Reminds me of a corny movie I watched with my teenage son. “I Love You Beth Cooper” where the main character says in a disappointed tone after their first date, “You’re not the Beth Cooper that’s hanging on my bedroom wall that I’ve dreamed about!”
It’s because it’s the feeling that we want, not the actual stuff. For example, it's not the drill you want but the hole it will make. Besides, most of us really don’t know what we really need. Much like a child that doesn't understand that eating too much candy is not good for them, if we look at our lives we simply can’t fathom (nor have the physical capabilities of knowing) all the necessary experiences needed to help us grow healthy and “happy” because we are not at that level of “being”.
So, who makes the decisions?
There are many popular thoughts professing that “what you think about” or “your attitude” are responsible for your life’s course. Others profess that your current life situation is because of the decisions that you have made in the past. In essence “what you think about is what you get back.” Is that true in your life? Have your thoughts been that bad that for some of you, you’ve gotten cancer or some other lethal disease? Or you are living in a horrid relationship, or getting foreclosed on your house? What possibly could you have decided on or thought of that brought you to this state of affairs?
Let me ask you a question. Do you know anybody that is “negative” minded? Yet you look at their lives and wonder, “how the heck are they so “lucky?” Everything come so easily for them, money, good relationships, all the right breaks? If it’s not your thoughts or attitude that governs your life, than what is?
More than 85% of experiences in your life is controlled by your higher spirit.
Deep questions like “why are there handicapped babies born,” or “why there are people dying senselessly” and other unexplainable so-called misfortunes can be attributed to your higher spirit. Your spirit created exactly where you are in life. Nothing can happen to you if your spirit has not allowed it.
Why set goals if you have no control?
Some of you may be confused, frustrated and have more questions than ever. This is a sign that you are expanding. It’s a good place to be.
The main reason is because it is an awakening process for you. Although you have only 15% control, the more “awake” or connected you are, the more control you get. This is much like graduating from one class to another. Once you can manage the 15% you are in control of, you get access to more. People like Jesus, Mohammed and many others that reached their stature, had access to much higher realms where (from our perspective) appeared as though they could do miracles. In fact, many of Jesus’ parables were teachings for his followers about accessing higher realms where one could create or manifest. His parables were not about greed, the devil, or discrediting wealth. Does “heaven on earth” ring a bell? As a note, I do not have any affinity towards a specific religion. When I talk about Jesus or other prophets, I speak about the men, not the religions that have grown from them.
What you can do…
Being in the now and just noticing the situations in your life without judgment or expectations, is a great start to unlocking more control.
Why did some of my goals come true when I set them?
There are several reasons but the main reason is that you were in alignment with your spirit’s desires. Since we are all connected to the universal knowledge base we sometimes get glimpses into our future. You may have heard stories about people putting pictures of something they desire on their fridge and then later they actually get it. Was it goal setting or accessing glimpses into your future? Since most of us do not have access to higher realms, it is most likely the latter.
What you can do.
There are many different forms of meditation. However, meditations directed towards your Creator and only your Creator is the foremost method for reaching the truest form of a higher state. Love making is a close second if you are with a partner that can connect with you. Being in the present, and noticing what you notice without judgment, is powerful way to connect to your spiritual side throughout the day.
How can I change the 85% that my spirit has control over much faster?
Now that you know the foundations of goal setting, your desire for changing your life situation may seem hopeless. You’re probably thinking “how can I reach the levels of a Buddha or Jesus to make those life changes that truly matter?” Fear not, most of us never aspire to reach the realms as they did and you do not have to for the physical manifestations. Physical manifestations are in the lower levels of ascension.
There are many ways you can attain higher levels of control. Through a life changing event for example. For me it was two near death experiences that catapulted me into higher realms. Working with change agents like “John of God” or myself is another way.
What you can do.
This may seem redundant but specific forms of meditation and being in the present are the best methods if you want to do it on your own. For faster results you can seek the advice of someone like myself that has been given abilities to mesh alternate realities into your current situation.
Practice these methods and you will notice great change in your awareness. Please understand that you are where you’re supposed to be in your life because you need to be there. You didn’t make any mistakes.